Thought of the Day

Speak truth into your life. Speak on and for whatever it is that you want to accomplish.

Thought of the Day

If you are in pain or constantly hurting, ask yourself why? Once you find out the reason, let it go and remove it from your life.

Thought of the Day

There is someone out there who is willing to except you for who you are.

Lesson Five

Healing

Every ending to a relationship is different, but we all must go through the same process. We all need time for the wounds to heal; we need to get over it. If we don't allow ourselves to have this time, then how we will learn from our mistakes. It takes times for you to mentally process everything and then for you to learn how to prevent that same thing from happening again.

Now the time period varies; there is no set time. The best advice I can give to you on this to not rush anything. You should never feel as you need to be with someone. This is a feeling that leads to nothing but bad choices and you just being with someone, who isn't right for you. There is nothing wrong with hanging out and going on dates with people, but as far as leading into a relationship, no. Everyone should make time for themselves to grow after a relationship.

Healing can take place in many ways- some of us need time to ourselves; we don't want to be bothered. While others feel as if they need to go out and do things to take their mind off of the situation. Do whatever makes you feel better. But note, after this process is over, don't do anything that you will regret months later. Sometimes what you want to do is not as the best choice. Take charge and control of your love life. If you are tired of the same mistakes happening, make a change. If you are tired of feeling as if people are taking advantage of you, take charge and make a change.

I believe in you(:

Thought of the Day

Love is like a plant. You tend to it daily- water it, pluck the weeds, fertilize when needed- to make sure that it stays healthy and strong. Not doing so, results in a slow death.

Lesson Four

F.W.B (Friends With Benefits)

This is a situation that no everyone can handle. You must know how to control your emotions- which is basically locking them in a box and you no longer knowing the definition of the word. I'm so serious. The thing that ruins or makes an FWB difficult is when someone starts to catch feelings. If this starts to happen to you.. run away and cut yourself off from this person immediately. Make them think that you feel off of the face of the earth. 

Now, if it's the other way around, do the same. Separate yourself or just ask the person. Every FWB relationship is different, but the number one that you should always remember is you don't have a title. Your not their girlfriend/boyfriend. So when something happens that may bother you, think twice before you bring it up. Know your place in that relationship. I personally feel like a relationship like this should have rules, just so you both what you can and can not do. Spending too much time with someone who you are trying not to become intimate with or have a relationship with, there must be a balance.

Note: If you find yourself, constantly being bothered by your "partners" actions, you should really think about removing yourself from the situation. Think of yourself and take charge of the situation. Establish some rules and either get what you want or tell them to kick rocks and get lost. Why continue to be in something and you aren't really benefiting much??

Lesson Three

Trusting: Being the Liar vs. Being Lied To

Now I will honestly say that I have been in both situation. I have been the liar and I have also been the one who was being lied too. This is my outlook on being lied too. There no reason for someone to ever lie to you. I honestly believe that people lie because they care. It's the action of constantly lying and repeating the crime that makes it seem as if you don't. You lie because you don't want to hurt someones feelings, you believe you are going to get into trouble, or your going to lose something. If you didn't believe that none of those three things would happen then you have no reason to lie. You have nothing to lose.

Now, sometimes I do feel as if some things are left better unsaid and some crimes are left better untold. Sometimes being honest just ruins everything, but at the same time you should let the person who is being hurt decide on that. Explain to them exactly what happened, express that you are sorry (if you are), and show them that you want to make it better. Now personally, I believe that if someone is sorry and says that they will do better, actions will speak louder than words.

Either way, lying never does anything but causes more problems. If your unhappy with where you are then you should leave. No one should be in a relationship where they are constantly going back and forth in there head if they should stay or not. That's not ok. 

If your being lied too, forgive them. Forgive them if you decide to end the relationship and forgive them if you decide to give them another chance. If you do not find forgiveness, you will not be able to move on. You will constantly have negatives thoughts and feelings. That does nothing but hold your relationship back from growing.

 So take charge! Tell your partner what you want and what you are expect from them and what you want to give to them. They should be able to do so. A relationship is about two, not one.